Whose life are you living? Is it time for a Priority Inventory?

Whose life are you living? is it time for a priority inventory?

Do you like your life or are you just passing the time? Are you doing what you want to be doing right now or do you find yourself jealous at other people’s highlight reels on Facebook? Are you working towards doing what you want or are you waiting for life to happen to you?

Many people feel like their life has gotten off track, or maybe that they have been going the wrong place the entire time. If this strikes a chord, it might be time to suss out why you are living the life you currently are if it is not what you want.

What is a priority? Priorities are the most important things in your life, what you deem most important to yourself. Whatever you make a priority in your life has a higher chance of flourishing as it is getting more attention. Priorities show themselves in the amount of time you dedicate to something and the amount of money(which is ultimately the value placed on your time) you spend on the things important to you.


I will use traveling as an example of goal achievement and priorities because I know many people claim travel as one of the things they would like to do more of and are not doing anything to fulfill that goal.  Many people who claim to want to travel, never actually do, they like travel pages on Facebook, they have dreams of lounging on the beach or partying away in a foreign country. They do not work towards it; they do no research to find out how they could do it now, and when they do get a chance to take a vacation they visit relatives. Clearly, travel is not at the top of their priorities. People give excuses well I if I just had more money. False, you could travel now you just have to adjust your expectations and make it happen. Or maybe you should just own it, and know that traveling really isn’t that important to you and stop being wistful about it because truly you would rather see your family or play basketball with your friends.


Examples for Time Charting and Money charting
Examples for Time Charting and Money charting

Priority Inventory:

1. Write a list of your top 5 priorities. Examples: Friendships, Spouse, Children, Security, Health, Success, Pleasure, Nature, Status, and Adventure.
2. Write a list of 5 goals you are working on.
3. Take your average week and tally up the hours you spend doing things. You will quickly see where your current priorities are. If you dislike your job and you are spending the majority of your week doing it and no time applying for different jobs or doing research or education on what you would rather be doing it might be time to reevaluate that.
4. Evaluate your monthly statements, where is your money going? Whatever you are spending it on is where you are placing your priorities.Do you have a new car payment, saying appearances is important to you? Do you have money going into savings every paycheck, showing security is a value you place importance on?
5. Compare and Contrast 1&2 with 3&4. Are you working towards your goals? Are you putting your energies into where you want them? Try to figure out why things might not line up, and adjust your life accordingly.

How to Achieve Your Goals by Battling Your Inner Caveman!

How to Achieve your goals by battling your inner caveman

Inside all of our minds is a caveman. This caveman does things to survive. He wants to get the highest caloric food to store for famine. He wants to rest and conserve energy for that mammoth he is going to have to spear tomorrow. He wants to procreate with whatever mate he can find because who knows if there will be a tomorrow.


This caveman does not know we are living in times of plenty.


This is why it is hard to reach your goals. You have to deny that inner caveman and the physical urges he can produce in your body. You have to say no I’m putting my future goals above my current discomfort. Whatever it might be: losing weight, gaining muscle, saving money, or learning a skill. He is there to tell us: I deserve this splurge, just one piece of cake, or wouldn’t it be easier just to sit here and watch an entire season of Lost on Netflix. Know that you can retrain your mind, and like everything else you do this by repeating the actions you want to be in your life.

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Depressed, Anxiety? Six solutions to kick it to the curb!

This Worked For Me! Depressed? Anxiety? Six Solutions to Kick it to The Curb. Depression anxiety emdr hypnotherapy hallucinogens, medications http://jessicacoaches.com/2016/03/depressed-anxiety-six-solutions-to-kick-it-to-the-curb/

If you or a loved one is in the depths of depression, I’m sorry, it is a horrible place to be.  The good thing is there is hope.  One thing I have noticed is people keep going back for the same tricks that are not working for them or don’t get help at all.  They feel trapped by the fact that they have always been this way, and they can’t imagine a life where it could be any different.  There are solutions.  Do you think the only cures for mental illnesses are medication and classic therapy?  A whole world of options exists out there, and I’m sure I have not even heard all of them.


Loved Ones: First things first, your person needs you, you will need to support them.  This is a real illness.  You will need to help them navigate the medical and insurance system.  You will need to be supportive of getting them to try new things and get to appointments.   If they are unable to manage their life you might need to financially support them, however, I believe you should only do this if they are actively seeking help as not to enable them just to dwell in depression.


So what can I do?

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